The title «Giving life to life» summarizes the content of the paper, which deals with the issue of making the relationship from the beginning of life and the building of positive emotions, or so-called resilience. Research shows that those with greater resilience have a more hopeful gaze and are able to give meaning to traumatic experiences, even if they do not experience less pain than others who react worse. How can resilience be nourished, in the sense of giving birth to or reviving areas of oneself left orphaned? Contemporary psychoanalysis, in dialogue with Infant Research, Neurosciences, Attachment Theories and Theories of the Mind, conceives the mother-child exchanges as the expression of a fundamental, relational sense. Through Lorenzo’s clinical case, the Author discusses the importance of playing, of being able to be alive and to communicate life in order to restore psychic resources invaded by the environmental threat and to get out of the place of fear, as Graham Music put it.